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- Tonto Dikeh's father comes through for her
- Thug who did THIS to woman after throwing a pint glass in her face could walk free in just five months
- PREGNANT Kaffy Steps Out
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- Happy Birthday Funke Akindele
- See Why Marijuana May Be Good For You
- Producer OJB Off To India For His Kidney Transplant
- Briton, 31, found floating dead in the sea after cocaine, ecstasy and speed binge in Ibiza
- Boko Haram Slaughters Another 44 In Mid Night Operation
- How This Bishop Defrauds This 68yrs Old Woman In Abuja
- How To Save Your Relationship & Marriage from Divorce & Stay Together Forever.
- My Affair With Beverly Osu In The Bathroom ––Angelo Speaks
- Sex Scandal: Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA Slept with Ese; Plus Tape Evidence
- had sex every day for a year': Meet the insecure size 16 mom who faced her fear of being naked in front of her husband
- Woman wakes from coma to discover she is three months PREGNANT - and can't remember the past three years of her life
- WOW Kanye West Shares Picture Of Baby North On Kris Jenner Show
- At Last Prophet Ajanaku Is Confirmed Dead
| Tonto Dikeh's father comes through for her Posted: 24 Aug 2013 04:28 AM PDT  "He really doez look cluelezz,He iz ma Mother n Father**Shoutout to d buziezt mozt lovin Papa Eva for comin thru**#MaKing #MaBaby #MaLife #Love #Tnx4BindereMom/Dad  |
| Posted: 24 Aug 2013 04:18 AM PDT A woman almost blinded and left scarred for life after being glassed has spoken of her disgust after it emerged her attacker could walk free in just five months. Sophie Joyce spent five days in hospital, needed 40 stitches and underwent three operations after suffering deep gashes to her face and left eye. The 20-year-old has been left partially sighted and doctors say she was lucky not to lose her sight altogether.  Victim: Sophie Joyce shortly after the sickening attack. The 20-year-old will be scarred for life  Attractive: Miss Joyce pictured before the attack, which she has described as having changed her life But yesterday the shop assistant said her ordeal had been made worse after thug David Collins, 17, was sentenced to just ten months in a young offenders' institute. With good behaviour, Collins, who was under age and should not have been allowed into the bar, could be free in just five months' time. Miss Joyce, of Manchester, said: 'Ten months is disgusting - it is ridiculous. I'll have to live with this for the rest of my life and he will be out in five months.  Thug: Collins was handed 10 months in a young offenders institute The attack happened at the M19 bar, in Levenshulme, Manchester, in the early hours of May 6. Collins, of Droylsden, Manchester, had offered Miss Joyce some rolling tobacco, but flew into a rage as he thought she had helped herself to too much. He hurled a pint glass at Miss Joyce, who was standing 4ft away, which smashed into her face. 'The pint glass shattered into pieces,' she said. 'One piece of glass got stuck in my eye. Blood was pouring down.' The glass perforated her eyeball and she needed an operation to remove shards from her eye. It took another two operations to glue the split eyeball back together. Miss Joyce added: 'When I open my eye it feels like I'm underwater. I can't see any detail and I struggle to read things. Everything is blurry. The whole incident has made me feel so sad. It has left me frightened and self-conscious.' John Wolfson, defending, told the court Collins 'felt terrible' about what had happened. Collins pleaded guilty to causing actual bodily harm. Recorder Stephen Riordan, QC, told him: 'What you did was disgraceful.' Collins, from Droylsden, was locked up for 10 months in a young offenders institution after admitting causing actual bodily harm. Manchester Crown Court heard how Collins offered Miss Joyce, from Longsight, some rolling tobacco and then flew into a rage because he thought she had taken too much.  Crime scene: Sophie outside the M19 bar where the attack happened Collins, formerly of Cypress Road in Droylsden, was arrested at the scene after staff stopped him from fleeing. Defending Collins, John Wolfson said: 'To say he's terribly sorry for what's happened is perhaps an understatement. 'I'm instructed to apologise deeply to the young woman concerned for the catastrophic injury he's caused her. He feels terrible about it.' Passing sentence, judge Stephen Riordan QC said: 'What you did was disgraceful, violent and a criminal act.'  Severe: The shop assistant suffered horrific injuries following the unprovoked attack  |
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| See Why Marijuana May Be Good For You Posted: 24 Aug 2013 04:07 AM PDT  Cannabis Sativa (Marijuana) has some medicinal properties quite alright but the harmful properties is more and it's too addictive. The most harmful property of Cannabis is Tetra-hydracanabinol (THC). The chemical compound in Cannabis can destroy most vital organs of the body eg: the heart, kidney, lungs. It can cause stroke or trigger heart attack or cardiac arrest. The disadvantages out weighs the advantages. Do not indulge in its intake please!!!Now you can read the report on Why Marijuana May Be Good below and decided for yourself: Unknown to people, there are many hidden nutritional values in the mostly condemned Marijuana. While majority condemn its intake, many youths see that as the only source of inspiration with many nutritional values. For a 24 year old Nathaniel , an undergraduate of Nnamdi Azikiwe University, who is in Lagos because of the ongoing ASUU strike, he started smoking Marijuana at the age of 20 when he gained admission into the higher institution. His first experience when he smoked it still remains evergreen in his memory, that he felt he can never be normal again. "The first day I smoked Igboo is one of the days I cannot forget in a hurry. I had a friend, who is an addict in smoking. So, one day when we hung out with some friends, after drinking, he brought the wrap and told me that if I take this, it will clear the alcohol I took and it will make me look and appear very smart. So, after much conviction, I decided to try it. I first drew the first smoke inside, they clapped for me and said that was the way to do it, that I should take it gradually. I never knew when I finished almost one wrap alone. When I was done with that, it was obvious to me that I was in for a big trouble. It was as if they added an extra flesh on one side of my skull. My skull was going towards one direction. I felt as if there was gutter all over the road and I started leaping. My friends started laughing but when they noticed the thing was getting out of hand, they grabbed me, sat me down in one place and prepared a very big bowl of garri without sugar for me. After drinking the garri, I was still hungry. I felt very weak and slept off and woke up in the middle of the night. When I woke up the next day, I was feeling very hungry as if I had been starving for more than one week. I ate like never before and I slept off again. When I woke up, I was very happy. Everything around me made me laugh. Even when you cursed me, I would laugh over it," he recalled. According to Nathaniel, though his parents were seriously against his consumption of Marijuana, he made them to believe that, he felt so comported and understood everything he read whenever he smoked. "It was not easy making my parents see reasons why they should allow me smoke, though I never did that in their presence. For me to read and understand well, I must smoke. Even when I want to go in for any examination, I must smoke so that I will remember all that I have read and be able to put them together well. I am in my third year now and I made good grade. So, smoking has never stopped me from reading and passing my examinations. If I am about to write an exam and I have not smoked, I'd feel I have not read. So I don't seem to believe it when people say that Marijuana is not good for health. But if you know it does not work for you, stop smoking it," Nathaniel advised. As against the belief of most people that Marijuana is very bad to health, Peter, has a point to prove. To Peter, the best medicine a depressed man who lost appetite could take is Marijuana. He is one of the people that used to believe that Marijuana is not good until he confirmed from a medical practitioner that most sleeping drugs that also boost appetite are produced with a higher percentage of that. " I strongly disagree that Marijuana makes people mad, it is all lies. If you take it the first two to three times and you cannot stand it, I will advise you to quit. It is very good and highly medicinal. I started smoking at a very tender age and up till now, I am still intact, I am even better than some people that do not take it. Whenever I want to be in my best mood, I normally go for that. I talk less when I smoke and I think more. You can't say I have quarrelled with you after smoking, why would you not want me to smoke since it is good for my own health?, " he said. Peter also insists that as far as he is concerned, he doesn't think anything can make him not to do his thing. While some seem to applaud this weed, Kunle, a graduate of Lagos State University, LASU, has a different side to this story. He strongly believes that behind every big crime committed in an area, you'd find out that most perpetrators of the crime are Marijuana smokers and in most cases, they smoked before executing their crime. In his words, " Why would a normal man tell me that Marijuana is good for health when most criminals are smokers of marijuana. Though I have not tasted that before , I know and people around me know that Igboo inspires people to think about crime, it has no positive inspiration," Kunle cautioned. According to Kunle, if there is a way to stamp out the intake of this weed, we are going to find out that there will be higher rate of responsible youths. "Many youths are out of school because they joined their friends in taking what they know is not good for their health. Generally, smoking is not good for health. I have this young and vibrant dude in my village, he is one of the boys I respected so much. But, where is he today? He now walks about the village mad, no thanks to Marijuana. When he started this earlier, everybody in the village were against that.He was warned to desist from it, but youthful exuberance led him to that. Now he has ruined his future. I will advise youths to stay away from that. It has no nutritional value. Anybody that says Igboo is good for health is a liar. Parents should warn their children to desist from this act." By Vanguard's Zie Egole  |
| Producer OJB Off To India For His Kidney Transplant Posted: 24 Aug 2013 04:05 AM PDT  OJB left for India on Friday to have his kidney treatment as expected. We wish him well!  |
| Briton, 31, found floating dead in the sea after cocaine, ecstasy and speed binge in Ibiza Posted: 24 Aug 2013 04:02 AM PDT A British holidaymaker has died after a drink and drugs binge on the Spanish party island of Ibiza. John Sharp, 31, was found floating dead in the water off the resort of Playa d'en Bossa near Bora Bora nightclub on Saturday morning. Police spent days trying to identify him after he was pulled out of the sea in a pair of swimming trunks with no ID on him.  Party island: Tourists leave the Bora-Bora Bar at the Playa d'en Bossa close to where British tourist John Sharp, 31, was found floating dead in the sea after taking cocaine, ecstasy and speed, drinking heavily A post-mortem examination revealed he had taken several drugs including cocaine, ecstasy and speed. Clubbers who partied with Mr Sharp before he was found dead have told investigators he was also drinking heavily. A source close to the probe, being led by an investigating magistrate, said: 'We believe he had been dead around 24 hours when he was found floating in the sea. 'He went out partying last Thursday night and was last seen alive by witnesses police have spoken to around 8am the day before he was found dead.' Mr Sharp's parents flew to the island to identify him after being contacted by the Foreign Office. It is not known where in Britain he is from.  Good times: People dance in Bora Bora. Clubbers who partied with Mr Sharp before he was found dead have told investigators he was also drinking heavily. It is not known which nightclub he had been visiting Ibiza's drugs scene has been under the spotlight since the arrests in Peru earlier this month of suspected drugs mules Melissa Reid and Michaella McCollum. They were working in Ibiza over the summer when they claim they were kidnapped by Colombian gunmen and forced to fly to Lima to bring back nearly 12kg of cocaine hidden in their suitcases. They are currently awaiting trial in a Lima jail after being charged with drugs trafficking. Spanish police say they have not ruled out arrests in Ibiza in connection with the failed drugs smuggling operation. Eleven members of a Brit-led drugs trafficking gang arrested in Ibiza in 2009 were sentenced to a total of 32 years in jail in Spain in June after striking a last-minute deal with prosecutors. Ringleader Shachar Cohen was sentenced to four and a half years in prison. Mum-of-one Janine Mallett, 31, from Stockton-on-Tees near Middlesborough, drowned in nearby San Antonio at the start of July after binging on a cocktail of drugs. She was found after becoming separated from a friend she had gone on holiday with during a night out.  |
| Boko Haram Slaughters Another 44 In Mid Night Operation Posted: 24 Aug 2013 03:57 AM PDT  "As am speaking to you now, Red cross officials and the San Medicine Frontier are attending to the injured victims," a rescue worker with a federal government agency who does not want to be named said. According to him, the village has been deserted, as the people are now taking refuge at the Baga central primary school. Many people were also said to have been injured during the attack that lasted for hours. It was gathered that the gunmen also set fire on some houses in the village. Baga is about 157 kilometers away from Maiduguri, the State capital and an epicenter of the insurgency which had witnessed series of attacks through bombings and gunshots. A rescue worker told Journalists in Maiduguri that the village came under attack late Tuesday when unknown gunmen stormed the settlement and killed many people when they were fast asleep. A source with National Emergency Management Agency (NEMA) who confirmed the incident to Vanguard, said the agency has mobilized to the area to access the situation and render assistance to the injured victims and those who were psychologically traumatized in the attack. Meanwhile, the Presidential Committee on Dialogue and Peaceful Resolution of the security challenge in the North on Friday displayed video recording of Shura members of the Boko Haram sect where they called on their field commanders to ceasefire as being proposed by the government, saying that prophet Mohammed sanctions dialogue during Jihad.  |
| How This Bishop Defrauds This 68yrs Old Woman In Abuja Posted: 24 Aug 2013 03:54 AM PDT  It is an irony that Queen Ozuke, who should to be enjoying the dividend of being one of the pioneer visitors to Abuja after its creation and should be reaping the fruits of her labour, is rather in a dilemma as a result of the nefarious activities of some dubious ministers of the gospel. Queen Ozuke, who hails from Igbanke in Edo State and has been living in Abuja since 1979, said she was one of the contractors that supplied Dumez (Nig.) Limited elephant grass which the company used for erosion control while constructing roads in various parts of the Federal Capital City (FCC) in the 1980s. As a pioneer settler and business woman, she was allocated plots of land in Deidei, Jikwoyi, Kubwa, Kurudu, et al, in the FCT and established a primary-cum-secondary school in Kubwa town. According to the 68-year-old woman: "My problem started when my beloved daughter, Patience got married to Mr Etumudon Godwin and later had a baby. Because she was nursing a child, Patience's husband introduced a lawyer known as Abdullahi Ibrahim to me to serve as legal adviser of my school." Ozuke disclosed that in September 2008, Abdullahi borrowed the sum of N1million from her late daughter (Patience) on the pretext that he was going to use it to execute contract at the police headquarters in Abuja. She added that Abdullahi promised that he would pay back the money with interest on the 17th day of October 2008, but has not done so up till now. She also said Abdullahi in turn introduced to her, one Pastor Alani Alex, general overseer of Creative Faith International Gospel Centre who was said to be looking for a place to use as branch of his church. She said that Alex eventually rented a large hall in her school compound and paid rent for the first year, 2009. He also did some repair work on a 3-bedroom flat annexed to the school for use by his church. LEADERSHIP, however, gathered that Ozuke reached an agreement with the pastor to stay in the school compound for three years (2009-2012) only, and to go with her to the market to purchase all building materials necessary for the renovation work for record purposes, but that the pastor bought the materials without her knowledge. At the end of the three years agreed, Ozuke said, "Pastor Alex refused to vacate my premises except I refunded to him the sum of N4.1 million which he alleged he spent on the renovation of the property." An eviction notice to Pastor Alex, dated July 26, 2013 and from Ozuke's lawyer, Barrister S. O. Peters reads: "Very sadly, contrary to the terms of the understanding and agreement you have with our client, you have willy nilly decided to overstay the three (3) years fixed duration and even went further to forcefully annex some other parts of the school and against our client's consent decided to make use of the building as part of your worship centre. To make and use someone else's property without the consent and permission of the owner of the property under the guise of religion is to portray the Church of the Lord Jesus Christ in bad light …" Reacting to the allegations referred to in the letter when LEADERSHIP met him on Sunday, August 18, 2013, Pastor Alex insisted that he paid a sum of N450,000 to Madam Ozuke in 2009 for the use of the hall and spent an additional N4.1 million for renovation work on the property. The pastor, who said he built the school hall because there was no structure on ground when he started worshiping at the premises, said he would vacate the place whenever Ozuke refunds the N4.1 million to him. He also said he was willing to have an architect or quantity surveyor assess the extent of work done and expenses incurred during the renovation. The bursar of the school, Mr Emmannuel Odiniya, however, said there was existing structure in the school compound, adding that the clergyman actually roofed the hall and did renovation work on the uncompleted building. He also disclosed that the pastor is currently making use of a classroom in the school as his children church, adding that he (the pastor) promised to deduct the rent in respect of the classroom from the money Ozuke would pay to him. Another 'man of God' who allegedly defrauded Ozuke of several millions of naira is Bishop Promise Dibie, a former lecturer at College of Education, Agbor in Delta State but now with College of Education, Zuba in the Federal Capital Territory. In 2008, according to Ozuke, "Bishop Dibie and his mother (Theresa) approached me that they needed a place in Abuja to establish their church and I showed them my plot of land No. D41 at Zaudan, Pazeri and Sabon Gari Layout near Deidei, for temporary use. "I thought Bishop Dibie and his mother were true preachers of the gospel because they prayed fervently and spoke in tongues each time they visited me. So I drew closer to them and regarded them as family friends, not knowing that they are sheep in wolves' clothing", Ozuke said with tears streaming down her eyes. She also disclosed that while her daughter (late Patience) and her husband (Godwin) were seriously ill, she asked Dibie to sell her 18-seater bus and a plot of land on Arab road, Kubwa, to defray their medical bills. "Bishop sold the bus for N500,000 and the plot of land for N2.5 million to one Pastor Sam of Christ's Victorious Church, Kubwa, bringing the total amount to N3million but unfortunately, my daughter died two weeks after the death of her husband and few days after the sale of the property. When I asked Bishop to give me the N3 million, he promised to do so after the burial ceremony of my daughter. She also claimed, "Pastor Sam also robbed me of N200,000 on the pretext that he would supply machine for printing of exercise books to my school. Sadly, up till date, neither has Pastor Sam nor Bishop Dibie refunded the money to me", Ozuke lamented. Madam Ozuke also told LEADERSHIP that Bishop Dibie stole photocopy of her document in respect of her plot of land in Jikwoyi, sold it to one Dr Ademola Adeyinka through a female lawyer for N4million and instead, paid N1.6 million into her account. "I, however, paid back the N1.6 million to Bishop Dibie and sold the land by myself, to a civil servant", Ozuke disclosed. In his reaction, Dr Ademola Adeyinka in a telephone chat with LEADERSHIP, said he reported the matter to the police at Jikwoyi police station on Thursday, June 26, 2013, adding that Bishop Dibie is yet to refund the N4 million he defrauded him of through the female lawyer who allegedly posed as the rightful owner of the land. Asked why he has not collected his money from the Bishop or the female lawyer since the past four years, Adeyinka said, "I am a very busy man, I am taking my time, but be rest assured that by God's grace, I must get back my N4 million". Concerted efforts by LEADERSHIP to get the response of Bishop Dibie have not been successful because some of his colleagues at the College of Education, Zuba said he travelled abroad a few months ago, to pursue his masters degree programme at Coventry University in the United Kingdom. LEADERSHIP also gathered from an unimpeecable source in Agbor, Delta State that Bishop Dibie fraudulently collected the sum of N1.3 million from Messrs Udoka and Nduka on the pretext of issuing them visas to travel to Europe. Our source further revealed that the victims dragged the Bishop to the police in Agbor where he gave each of them N300,000 with a promise to refund the balance, but has not done so up till now. In reactions to the nefarious activities of 'new generation' men of God in Nigeria, two elders of a Pentecostal Church (names withheld), who are aware of Madam Ozuke's predicaments, wondered why Pastor Alex would still be preaching and asking people to repent of their sins when he was yet to vacate the premises of the 68-year-old woman after the expiration of his tenancy. And why Bishop Dibie, an overseer of St Peter's Christ Army Church of Nigeria in Agbor, Delta State, has refused to pay her the N3 million he realised from the sale of her property since 2009.  |
| How To Save Your Relationship & Marriage from Divorce & Stay Together Forever. Posted: 24 Aug 2013 03:50 AM PDT  But for inexplicable reason, the relationship between the once happy couple turned sour just four months after the arrival of the baby. One thing led to another, and before one could say 'Jack Robinson,' the marriage had broken down irretrievably. It is trite to say we live in an era of marriages collapsing like a pack of cards. What can today's couples do to make their unions last till death do them part? Kalu Igwe Kalu, a marriage counsellor, gives some tips.In our society today, there are several young women in the mould of Chinyere. Our customary courts today have registers filled with applications for dissolution of marriages that have hit the rocks. And although there are no realiable statistics on the phenomenon, the courts have dissolve quite a number of frosty marriages in recent times. What could be the reason for the increasing number of broken marriages in the country today? At a recent forum in Lagos, lawyers olinked rising divorce cases to intolerance, infidelity and wife battering. Regardless, marriage is viewed in several climes and cultures as a sacred institution that must be kept intact irrespective of the problems arising from the relationship between couples. Indeed, there is a groundswell of opinion that the rising cases of armed robbery, prostitution and other social vices in the country are partly due to the increasing number of broken marriages, since children from such homes are subjected to inadequate parental care. And, apparently to stem the tide of broken marriages, KaluIgwe Kalu, a marriage counsellor, writer, public speaker, and economist, recently organised a seminar with the theme, 'Marriage is Beautiful Couples Banquet' in Aba, Abia State. The seminar dwelt on steps to make marriages enjoyable and successful. Kalu described marriage as "beautiful" as well as "a gift from God," noting that a beautiful marriage is not achieved in one fell swoop. Rather, it takes a gradual process. He said during the early stages of marriage, the husband and wife are attracted to each other, but submitted that with the passage of time, the bond that holds the couple together may start waning. "This is when marriages begin to come under severe attacks, and if care is not taken disintegration sets in", he said. Nevertheless, Kalu stressed that marriages could be sustained as long as the couples are physically attached to one another. His words: "Couples should always develop the habit of touching each other… studies have shown that couples that touch themselves more frequently do better than those who do not''. He counselled couples to see their bodies as joint possessions, and to always give love and gifts to one another. He said: "Marriage is where you give and not just receive ….start the giving and your spouse will reciprocate. As you give, you begin to receive. "Whatever you give your wife is what you get from her. If you give her love, she will submit to you. "You should date your wife as you did before you got married to her. This will bring freshness reminiscent of those days of courtship... Also, take her out to a nice eatery you can afford or on a picnic for a two-hour talk. Get engaged in discussions and you will be surprised how both of you would be flowing. "Spouses must recognise and appreciate each other, which may involve discovering and developing common interests and values, finding perspectives, creating shared expectations and life time smart goals as conflicting values, standards, morals and ethics may not allow the beauty of marriage to manifest. "In situations where there are conflicts, you just need to work on your differences and arrive at a compromise. Either of you have the right not to agree on everything, but you have to feel safe to be yourself - holding on to your own values and ideals without threat" Kalu advised couples to come to a level in their martial life where they will have common interests as well as know each other's tastes in music, clothing, food, art and many other issues of life. The marriage counsellor stated: "It is possible to come to this level of marital beauty as it is absolutely an awesome experience… Appreciation in marriage is a beautiful lifestyle of holding one's spouse in high esteem. It is necessary to understand what your partner enjoys; the type of stories he or she likes. What is it that he or she enjoys that you don't? "What is his or her attitude to sex? Does he or she enjoy long foreplay, adventure and sensual love-making? The ability of one to answer these questions will help in the showing of appreciation in marriage." He stated that the ability of a man to tell his wife that "you are beautiful", has the potency of making marriage beautiful. "It is one word one says that makes a whole world of difference in a woman's world", said Kalu. According to him, "husband and wife who see and appreciate each other's beauty; couples who don't just internalise their appreciation of each other's beauty but voice it out experience the beauty in marriage more. "Another thing that makes marriage beautiful is the ability to say sorry. There is nobody that does not make mistakes. When we wrong our partners, saying 'sorry' can open up the room for conversation that will eventually lead to a resolution. In a beautiful marriage, no spouse waits for the other to be the first to say 'I am sorry'. A beautiful marriage is a place for givers and forgivers. "Express your love verbally to your wife. I love you is a statement you cannot say enough to your spouse. Women especially, never get bored hearing 'I love you' from their spouse as if it is a creed in marriage. "Love your wife man, love your husband woman. When you say I love you, you should mean it." Kalu described sexual connection as an important ingredient of a beautiful marriage. However, he regretted that most couples have remained extremely conservative, making it difficult to discuss sexual matters, even where it affects their personal sexual enjoyment. According to the marriage counsellor, the seminar will be held in Aba on a monthly basis, and would be mounted in Abuja in September.  |
| My Affair With Beverly Osu In The Bathroom ––Angelo Speaks Posted: 24 Aug 2013 03:48 AM PDT  Asked why he had sex with Beverly openly in the bath, Angelo said: "We didn't have sex. We talked about it. There were some things I said I wasn't going to do in the house. I respect my mum so much. Before I got into the house, there were things I told my mummy I wasn't going to do. I wasn't butt naked. It looked as if we were having sex in that bathtub [but] we were just kissing. I couldn't take advantage of Beverly because I respect her so much."Angelo is kind of insisting that what we saw on tape is film tricks or what? #DontGetIt. Anyway, he has said he intends to take his relationship with Beverly to the next level once she is done with BBA. "We will try and work things out and see how we can make our relationship work. At the same time, I hope the people of Nigeria don't hate Bev. I would love to come to Nigeria and experience Nigerian culture and take lots of pepper," Angelo added.  |
| Sex Scandal: Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA Slept with Ese; Plus Tape Evidence Posted: 24 Aug 2013 03:34 AM PDT   COZA ex-member, Ese Walter, exposes Senior Pastor's unbelievable sexual escapades. When Olokunbolablessing.blogspot.Com first got this story it was not easy for me to publish it because I worshiped in COZA in 2009 before I left to another church in Abuja. But my modus operandi is to publish all stories so that others in the same mess can change and those who are not can be careful of "slippery slops". WARNING: What you will see below is an explosive... By Ese Walter: I want to talk about something I have kept bottled up inside for longer than necessary. I have also decided to use real names, as my defense for any accusation of slander is justification. I tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but. However, feel free to throw your doubt around but know that I am past the shaming game (where victims of abuse are shot down by blame) I am no longer a victim but a survivor who is sharing her experience to help others caught in same web of abuse, guilt and shame. We only get to live once right? So here, it goes. I recently came to know this event too was abuse (recently here means about 6 months ago). It has literally been eating me up having to drive by another billboard advertising preachers, or hearing his name, or even trying to ask about the validity of the entire salvation story and whether or not there is a God that truly watches over his people. That being said, I'm just going to say it as it is. This is a recap of my affair with Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA (Common Wealth Of Zion Assembly) Abuja chapter. This affair I have come to know as a form of abuse as you would see the different elements of abuse very present. I met Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo many years ago. I was getting bored of the church I was attending and someone suggested COZA. At the time, I had never heard about it. My friend said, go there, I'm sure you would enjoy the word. But he also gave me a strong warning. He said he would advice that I remain a member only and not join the workforce. I agreed. The first time I attended COZA, I felt it was my church and decided I was going to plant my ass there. About eleven months had gone by and I was still attending the services quietly and faithfully. I really did like the church. One day a worker in the church approached me that the senior pastor wanted to see me. Me? I thought. Why would the senior pastor want to see me? Not the second man but the head nigga in charge? Ok na! I started to think my sin was oozing so bad the pastor could tell I needed Jesus. (Poor old me.) I saw him at the end of the second service (they had two services at the time) and he said to me that he would like me to work with him. I knew I had no intentions of becoming a pastor so I had to ask in what capacity. He said he'd like for me to join a department, preferably the Pastoral Care Unit (PCU). A few weeks later, against my friend's advice not to join the workforce, I was a PCU member. All of a sudden, I had some status in church. I was 'somebody.' Dress had to be on point, hair, shoes and what not… As workers, we were literally trying to outshine each other or so it seemed. Anyways, I felt like I was a privileged member of an elite circle. Hehehe. (It did feel good though, for the most part.) About a year after joining the workforce, I was on my way to London for a Masters degree program that would last two years. As was the rule for workers travelling, I wrote to say I would be away for 2 years and Pastor Biodun Fotoyinbo asked that I keep in touch by sending him my number and email when I had settled in London so he "makes sure I continue in the faith" because according to him, people loose their faith when they leave home and he wanted to make sure I didn't. So, on that note, as soon as I got a phone line in London, I was sure to call 'my pastor' to say I arrived safe, had settled in and also gave my phone number. We had spoken a few times especially when COZA started to stream online. I always watched and would give feedback on quality of production and share a little bit on the challenges I faced settling in a new land. One evening, Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo called me that he was coming to London and needed me to help him make some hotel bookings as the person who was meant to do it couldn't get it done (this was rather strange as I had never been involved in his travel itinerary). Later that day, he said it had been sorted and my help would not be required but that he would like me to arrange a cab to pick him up from Heathrow. I was happy to help my pastor from Nigeria and even saw it as a privilege. (I would later come to learn that all of this was a calculated attempt to hatch a plan that I suspect was set in motion when I was asked to join the workforce.) The cab guy was there to get him the next day and when he arrived, he called to ask why I didn't accompany the cab to pick him up (again, this was strange but I stopped my mind from overanalyzing the situation as I knew I had no business with his visit to London). About two hours later, he called me and said he would like to see me. When I arrived his hotel, I called from the reception but he asked that I come upstairs. I got to the room and tried to stop my mind from thinking why I was going to his room. As he opened the door and invited me in, I had to speak to my heart to stop its palpitations. My better judgment asked me not to go into the room but the kind of reverence I had for Pasotr Biodun Fatoyinbo bordered on fear and I steeped into that room. "Care for a drink?" Asked Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo. "No sir," I said. "You don't have to be shy Ese, even if it's alcohol, feel free and order what you want." I wasn't sure I heard my pastor asking me to order alcohol. I imagined it was a test and ignored the voice inside that was saying, "I'd have henny and coke please." He proceeded to ask how I had been coping in London and if I was a committed member of any church. He also said he thought there was something special about me and wanted to know that I had not strayed from my faith. I really thought he had heard I was doing something I shouldn't while in London but tried my best to focus on the conversation instead of my straying thoughts. He kept telling me to relax and feel comfortable with talking to him. After a few minutes, he asked that we go to the roof of the hotel as his room was a pent suite and had a connecting door to the roof. While there, he sat on a reclining chair and asked me to come sit on his laps. This was a bit awkward for me and I froze for a moment as I asked why. He said he had told me to feel free with him and loosen up. I found myself strolling to sit on his laps. At that moment, I felt like a little girl who was experiencing something her mind couldn't fathom. He asked me to kiss him and all I could think about was seeing him preach on the pulpit back in COZA Abuja, Nigeria, which was my home church. He again said 'feel free Ese.' And asked again, that I kiss him. A few hours later, let's just say, we were rolling under the sheets. It felt as though my mind had paused. I am not saying I was jazzed, (although it's possible I was in some trancelike state and didn't know it but I just was so afraid that I couldn't say or think otherwise.) That was the beginning of this affair. A sexual affair that went on for a little over a week, DAILY! I can hear somebody's mind thinking, 'well, you weren't raped." And I remember a pastor I opened up to when I couldn't take all the mind games asking if I seduced him. No, I didn't seduce him and no, I wasn't raped but I felt trapped in this affair. Come to think of it, how could I have seduced him when I wanted nothing from him? I mean, I was too busy minding my business in London trying to get through with my masters program and I was overly comfortable. And even if I wanted to seduce anyone, it wouldn't be a married man, not to mention a married pastor. What I couldn't reconcile the whole time, was how the same person who preached against the very things we were doing (i.e drinking in pubs, fornicating, committing adultery) was the same person endorsing and encouraging it. At some point, I got really confused about what Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and I were doing that I had to ask how he handles it. I will never forget what he said to me. He said and I quote, "I will teach you a level of grace that you don't understand." My mind couldn't fathom that somehow grace was enough covering for not just fornication on my path, adultery on his path and the many lies that was bound to follow what we were doing that was clearly abominable. I somehow dealt with the thoughts and fears that followed on my path. He had said to me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend and he would take me around the world and spoil me with money and things. Somehow, money had never been one of the things that motivated me (I am from a home where all my needs have been adequately met) In all my 'badness' through finding myself, I never did things I did for money but more of rebellion against rules and authority. Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo also said to me that he had a dream where I exposed what was happening to the media. He said it was all over the place and that people were calling me the girl that caused chaos in COZA. He also said I should remember the bible said to "touch not God's anointed." I immediately started to rebuke the devil and said I could never do anything like that. I was almost swearing with my entire family as I thought really I had touched God's anointed by submitting my body to be used. Little did I know at the time that all of these were ways to mess with my mind and even manipulate my thoughts. Fast-forward a few months later, I was back in Nigeria and my church had become uncomfortable. Anytime I sat in church and listened to Pastor Biodun preach, I felt shame. I finally sent him a message saying I wasn't comfortable anymore. I was confused and needed to talk about what had happened. He said I should meet him to talk and I did. It was a really weird meeting for me especially when he tried to kiss me at our meeting. I finally realized at this point that he couldn't help me. I thought God was angry with me and I couldn't pray so I decided to withdraw completely from COZA. This was the beginning of my mental torture. I couldn't talk to my family because already, I was the only one attending a different church and somehow my mom never liked the idea. As the days went by I tried to use drinking and smoking to cover up the deep shame and guilt I was battling with. But as soon as the high was over, the thoughts came back and I felt stuck like I couldn't move forward. I felt I had to talk to someone and I decided to speak to my then good friend, Ernest Akale but unfortunately for me, Mr. Ernest did not have the capacity to hold what I said to him. He broke down completely the days that followed and I found myself having to pause how I was feeling and what I was struggling with to help my friend be strong. After a while, he withdrew from not just me but his then fiancé and friends. I had to then tell the fiancé what had caused it (she suspected we were having an affair so I had to clear the air) To my surprise she was a lot stronger than her man and told me to suck it up (I'm paraphrasing). She said if she were me, she wouldn't leave the church but stay to torment Pastor Biodun and collect money from him. Ok! That sounded extreme for me, as my intention was not to blackmail but to heal my broken self. Anyways, I finally found the courage to speak to my then unit head who said he was going to talk to Pastor Biodun but didn't have the liver to do so. Before long, the story was spreading and naturally getting twisted. I went to a new church and it seemed like the COZA bug had chased me there. The pastor would always refer to COZA as some example and each time that was done, it seemed like a spear was thrust through my chest. One day, I broke down in the service and started crying uncontrollably, as I couldn't take another mention of COZA and the pictures it painted in my head. Very long, boring story cut short, for the last 5 months I gave the whole church thing a big space and break. I wasn't sure I believed in God. I wasn't sure I understood what it meant when people said 'Jesus saves" and I definitely wasn't sure how to deal with the mental torture that was affecting not just me but my relationships with family and friends. I was very unstable, fearful and worst of all guilty. I got a chance to talk to Pastor Folarin of COZA Lagos Chapter, popularly called Pastor flo about everything. I made an effort to reach out to him because I realized the right thing to do was talk to an elder in the church and seek some sort of remedy to a wrong I believed had been done me. Instead, Pastor Flo said, Pastor Biodun had confessed to him and they had 'talked' about it and somehow that was supposed to be Ok. He asked what it was I wanted coming to talk to him about it when I did, I told him I realized what happened between Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and I was wrong and not just that I felt abused and manipulated. I also said I thought it was wrong for Pastor Biodun to go on preaching without taking time to deal with his personal character flaws. I said I thought he was danger to all the young women that attended the church. Come to think of it, maybe he meant if I wanted something monetary or material (as someone had suggested when I opened up to her) but the truth is, I never wanted his money (or is it the church member's money.) All I wanted was to meet with him and have him accept that he misled me, betrayed his wife and the church he pastors. I wasn't the only lady in COZA who had been a victim of his sexcapades and manipulative patterns but I was the one who could come back after months of struggle with not just my faith but also my affair with him. And I wanted to set things right. I wanted to talk to Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo maybe for closure and I felt like I needed an apology because he played the "touch not my anointed" card to keep me locked in guilt, shame and fear when all along it was a calculated plan and I dare say, it started when he asked me to join the workforce. Not to mention the audacity to talk about teaching me a level of grace I didn't understand. I had no intention of understanding a grace that would permit me to go on doing things that were wrong and what's worse having to carry the burden for almost a year. Different surprising advises came up in the weeks that followed the rumour making rounds. I was told to hush because Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo had been a cultist in the past and could send people to shut me up. All my so-called friends in COZA withdrew from me and treated me like I had the plague. What was worse was Pastor Flo finally saw my then pastor to 'talk' about what had happened with Pastor Biodun and lied that it happened once and was a mistake. My question then became, 'do these people even care how broken I had become?' 'do they care about the emotional and spiritual welfare of the people they were pastoring?' The sad answer was NO. Most of us old members of COZA kept leaving but they couldn't care less. What was important was to keep growing the church and having more and more cars with stickers that read "More than enough." Back then, I always felt horrible when I saw another car drive past me with the sticker. I was breaking, I was struggling but no one could help. All they could do was ask me to hide so Pastor Biodun's goons don't hurt me. And then the interesting one was if I had evidence to prove my claim. Let me just say here that, it isn't a claim, it's a confession to free me from all of the guilt and shame I have had to live with for no reason at all. (That being said, I have evidence to prove all I have said here, the latest being a 58 minutes recording of my meeting with Pastor Flo a few months back) This is my confession and I cannot begin to describe how much weight has been lifted off of my shoulders just pouring the truth out about what went down. So, to all my ex COZA friends gossiping about me, get your facts right. To those who said they'd help me deal with the pain but didn't, I forgive you, I have learnt how to deal with it and I am doing just fine. To those who fear for my safety saying Pastor Biodun would send people to shut me up, I really have gone past fearing for my life. To live is gain and to die is Christ (or how does Paul say it again?) And to the only person who ever supported me through it all, thank you, I am learning to be brave. Please don't think I am perfect in all of this but in line with living my authentic life and putting all forms of abuse behind me, this is where I press the stop button and stop the bleeding. This is where I break the silence and call the church to stand up for what it has been commissioned to do. If you will not enter the Kingdom, please don't stop others who are trying to enter. I still remember when I used to nurse the idea of digging up emails, text messages, hotel billings (as once I used my card to pay for his room when his master card failed to work) to prove there was an affair. It was pathetic. Why for the love of heaven was I trying to dig up evidence? I am satisfied setting the record straight. I am ready for any shaming or bashing that would follow because the truth is, because of what I have suffered and come through, I am really not moved by what people say or think about me anymore. I am a stronger woman and a damn abuse survivor seeking to connect with other victims of abuse to show them how to deal with the shame, hurt and guilt and how to come out stronger. Turning their mess into their message. I am Ese Walter and I have gone through all forms of abuse from family, boyfriends, my ex pastor and some strangers not to break me, but so I stand and so I qualify to help victims. My scars have qualified me and when all is said and done, I will still be standing. I AM WOMAN, I BEND, I DON'T BREAK!  |
| Posted: 24 Aug 2013 03:14 AM PDT Brittany Gibbons, a mother-of-three who spent years insecure about her body, decided to set herself a challenge between the sheets after her husband pointed out that he hadn't seen her 'totally naked for years'. The size 16 blogger, who says she was 'horrible at intimacy', resolved to have sex every day for one year in order to curb her lack of self-confidence - which she says was ruining her love life. 'My husband is gorgeous and very, very sexy, but the issues we were having in the sack were all me,' the 32-yeat-old from Toledo, Ohio wrote on her blog, Brittany, Herself.  New self-confidence: Brittany Gibbons, a mother-of-three who spent years insecure about her body, set herself a challenge between the sheets after her husband pointed out that he hadn't seen her 'totally naked for years' 'I could not shut my insecurity off, and sex quickly became a really anxiety-inducing experience that went one of two ways,' she added. Mrs Gibbons, who disliked her stomach, her thighs, how she looked laying on her back and 'a myriad of irrational things,' said she spent years avoiding sex by using excuses like 'I have cramps. I have too many deadlines. Gigi is too scared to sleep alone let's bring her in the bed with us.' She said she also tried to explain to her husband, Andy, why she felt so insecure, which made her feel 'like a horrible asshole' when he asked her why him saying how pretty she was wasn't enough. Fed up with how she perceived herself and the effect it was having on her marriage, she came up with the plan to have sex every day for a year - with an exception for medical problems. 'I have three small kids, and as many mothers know, what happens to your body and self esteem after childbirth is both unexpected and mind blowing,' she told MailOnline. 'Three years after our last child, I still wasn't in a place of feeling sexy in my bare skin, and I wanted to change that' 'Three years after our last child, I still wasn't in a place of feeling sexy in my bare skin, and I wanted to change that.'With a focus on intimacy, the couple tried to rekindle the sex life they had pre-children - before exhaustion and 'raging insecurities' had set in. 'For me, a year of sex became less about getting my sex on, and more about getting my brain to stop being an asshole when I took all my clothes off,' she explained. And although it started off 'pretty rough,' Mrs Gibbons said after a while it stopped being a chore, and eventually became 'the moment of the day where I was most at peace'.  Body happy: The size 16 blogger, who says she was 'horrible at intimacy', resolved to have sex every day for one year in order to curb her lack of self-confidence - which she says was ruining her love life   Embracing her curves: Pretty underwear, and wearing the pretty things, 'even if it was under yoga pants and no one else was going to see it,' made Mrs Gibbons feel beautiful 'The actual act wasn't even what felt like the chore,' she said. 'The feelings of anxiety and insecurity felt like the chore. Like, "oh great, time to feel uncomfortable again". 'Then the moments when we weren't having sex, due to work travel or sickness, I began to miss that connection. I really understood what intimacy meant, by the end, and sometimes, it has nothing to do with the intercourse, and everything to do with what happens around it.' The moment when it became 'amazing,' she explained, was a morning when she was able to let everything go and truly enjoyed herself. 'It took a couple months to get there, but once I was there, it was worth it. 'And being able to be open and honest with my husband, and not embarrassed or anxious about being naked, was amazing, and he deserved that. We both did, really.' Trying to illustrate to her husband why she didn't feel sexy, no matter how much he found her sexy himself, was her biggest hurdle.'I needed to explain to him that him seeing me that way is great, but unless I saw it too, it didn't count,' she said. 'It took a lot of talking to make him realize that me not feeling sexy was not an attack on him, and him being hurt about it only made me feel worse. 'I wanted to enjoy sex, too. And the key for me being able to enjoy it is feeling confident and gorgeous, and that was a me journey, not a him journey, though having a cheerleader on the sidelines was a plus.'  Before the challenge: 'My husband is gorgeous and very, very sexy, but the issues we were having in the sack were all me,' Mrs Gibbon, 32, from Toledo, Ohio wrote on her blog, Brittany, Herself So she focused on what made her feel sexy, and advises other women in a similar situation to do the same. 'It's not a light switch, and it can't be cheated, so be prepared for it to be a trial and error sort of thing,' she admitted. 'I really sought out the physical things I could do to make myself feel sensual, and not, you know, like an exhausted mom of three. Pretty underwear, and wearing the pretty things, 'even if it was under yoga pants and no one else was going to see it,' made Mrs Gibbons feel beautiful. She learned how use clothes to accentuate parts of her body that she loved, like her cleavage, waist and hips, which made her appreciate them more. 'Eventually those feelings outweighed the moments of insecurity,' she said. Finding the courage to then talk to her husband about what she did and didn't want during sex was another hurdle she was forced to overcome during her sex-a-day challenge. 'I'm not an inside climaxer, I'm an outside climaxer. I do like oral sex, but I don't like having my nipples touched, because they are numb. I also hate having breath on my neck because I am extremely ticklish, and then I get goosebumps and my leg hair grows in too fast,' she revealed.  After the challenge: Not only is Mrs Gibbon finally ok in her own skin, it has also helped them be a lot more open with each other Inside of 'waiting around' for him to figure it out, Mrs Gibbons decided to have the 'dreaded conversation. 'It was hard for me to say I liked one thing and not the other. . . but once I had [the conversation], it was like giving him a road map. He was happy. I was happy. I wish I'd done it sooner.' The couple recently completed their challenge, and while they aren't 'hell-bent on doing it every day anymore,' they 'definitely make more of an effort.' Not only is Mrs Gibbon finally ok in her own skin, it has also helped them be a lot more open with each other. 'My thighs and arms, things I've been so insecure about, now became sensual to me, and it's being reflected in all aspects of my life.' And the most telling sign that reaching their goal worked? At the beginning of the sex-a-day challenge, Mrs Gibbon asked Andy via E-mail what his five favorite parts of her boy were. 'Butt, hair, face, lips, cleavage,' he replied. One year later, she asked him again. 'Only 5?' he wrote. 'I'd pick the curve of your waist between your boobs and your butt, the spot on your wrist where you dab perfume, your hair when you take it down in the morning, the really soft skin between your boobs, and all the freckles on your arms and shoulders.'  |
| Posted: 23 Aug 2013 11:37 AM PDT A woman, who was involved in a horrific road accident, woke from a coma to discover that she was 12 weeks pregnant. Last year, Gemma Holmes was riding a moped when she was flung across a busy road into a lamp post. She suffered extensive injuries, including a broken back, and doctors didn't expect her to survive. But she defied the odds and is now on the road to recovery - with her now 12-week-old son Ruben.  Gemma Holmes was involved in a road accident that broke her back and put her in a coma. When she woke up she was told she was 12 weeks pregnant but had not memory of who the father was Ms Holmes was in a coma and unable to be told the news, so doctors turned to her mother, Julie, to make the decision about whether the baby should be kept or terminated. 'Doctors suggested a termination because Gemma would not be able to undergo surgery to fix her back until she gave birth. 'So many things went through my head but I wanted to wait until Gemma was awake to make the decision,' Julie, who has taken on the role of Gemma's full time carer while she is confined to a wheelchair, told ITV's This Morning. When Gemma eventually awoke she was given the news, but she had no recollection having been in a relationship because she had developed severe memory loss. The previous three years were entirely blank.  Ruben (pictured) was delivered by caesarian section 12 weeks ago. His mother, Gemma, gave him the middle name Miracle because he survived such an ordeal  Gemma suffered horrific injuries after the crash on her moped. She was hurled across a street and into a lamp post and was left with a broken back and in a coma for six weeks Despite her grave health problems, she made the decision to keep the baby. 'I just thought that if this little baby inside me had managed to survive the awful crash then he was meant to be,' said Gemma. Gemma endured considerable pain during the pregnancy as she was unable to take high doses of painkillers, which can harm an unborn baby, while she recovered. In May this year she gave birth to Ruben Miracle Holmes by caesarian section.  Despite his traumatic beginnings, baby Ruben Miracle was delivered with no complications by caesarian section  Gemma (pictured with son Ruben) couldn't have a natural birth because of the brain injury she suffered from the crash. Giving birth puts pressure on the brain which could have worsened any existing problems  Gemma's mother Julie (left) is now Gemma's (right) full-time carer while she is still confined to a wheelchair. The new mother hopes to one day walk again and be able to run around with her son, Ruben, (pictured) as he grows up 'I couldn't have a natural birth because the brain injury I suffered from the crash put me at risk of further damage - giving birth puts pressure on the brain,' she said. 'I was also told my body would not be able to cope with the contractions after breaking my back.' The mother and son are now doing well and Gemma is to undergo an MRI scan soon to discover whether an operation will enable her to one day walk again. 'Ruben's my little miracle and I really hope I will one day be able to run around with him,' she said.  |
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| At Last Prophet Ajanaku Is Confirmed Dead Posted: 23 Aug 2013 11:34 AM PDT  Also, latest revelations from his hometown indicates that the Pastor might have been a member of the Oro cult. It may sound incredible, read the report below: Incredible! Oro Worshippers Hold Funeral Rites For Pastor Ajanaku by Jumu'ah Abiodun of Gazelle News: Residents of Ikola Odunsi, where Ajanaku lived before he breathed his last on Saturday evening at Gbongan in Osun State, were surprised early Tuesday morning when Oro masquerades went to town in funeral rites for the departed 'Pastor'. The funeral rites which began at about 12.30am ended between 3am and 4am. The Oro worshipers chanted the name of Ajanaku throughout the night. The worshipers marched through the streets of Ikola Odunsi, Ikola Gbenaje, and landed at the deceased's street, Folarin Williams Close. They were chanting, "Ajanaku lo, o di gbere", which translates to "Ajanaku is gone forever, adieu".  |
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